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Being Dominant And Submissive

by admin on Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

Being dominant and submissive are two very different qualities. If you are into BDSM then you will need to know which of these qualities suits you more. Being able to know if you are more dominate or more submissive is something that is going to help you to understand how you will be able to get the most sexual satisfaction from your partner.


A person that is more dominant will tend to be in charge more often and call the shots. They will often like to be with a person that is meeker so that they can tell them what to do and how to do it. Dominant people are often seen to be controlling when compared to other types of people. They will be the one that others look to when they do not know what to do.


If a person is more submissive then they tend to prefer to be lead around. They will often not attempt to be the leader of anything at any time. They will also enjoy being with a person that can tell them what to do and how to do it. These people do not tend to make very good leaders as they are always looking to others to tell them what to do.

Middle Ground

A lot of the time people will be neither overly dominant nor overly submissive. This is something that is common. Most people that are not one or the other will usually need to try to be both dominant and submissive and bed and see which they prefer.

Top Swingers Holidays

by admin on Sunday, February 20th, 2011

Swingers holidays allow those who participate in the swinging lifestyle to go on vacation and still be theirself. There are a few holiday destinations and ideas that always rank among the hottest.

Key West Fantasy Fest

With festivities that rival Mardi Gras, Fantasy Fest is an annual tradition that attracts hundreds from all over the world. Some of the festivities include a homemade bikini contest, costume contests, body painting, and many other sexy and fun activities geared towards adults.

Aspen Swingers Ski

Aspen has been known as the premier ski destination in the United States for decades. It attracts plenty of business from celebrities across the world. Swingers can now enjoy the scenery, great skiing, and swinging fun without worrying about the world turning their noses up. This ski trip typically happens in March, and will include a nude pool, hot tub area, erotic parties, and access to skiing.

Desire Cancun

For those who wish to enjoy a Caribbean style resort while also enjoying the company of other swingers, Desire Cancun may be the perfect destination. This all inclusive resort is clothing optional for the span of the resort. Enjoy playing tennis, snorkeling, or even take a day in the adult spa.


Every year Dream Pleasures Tours sponsors a few adult ship takeovers. These will allow swingers to go on a dream cruise with other swingers. The parties will last well in to the morning, and most of these are clothing optional, or shoes only type events. You can find information on the dates for these cruises by visiting their website.

Lingerie For Swingers

by admin on Monday, January 10th, 2011

When you lead a swinging lifestyle, what you wear under your clothing can be more important than the exterior clothing. Swinging is all about sexual expression and exploration. Adding lingerie to the mix can make the experience better as it makes you feel sexier. There are a few things to keep in mind before investing in any sexy clothing.


Lingerie isn’t designed to be worn long term, but with swinging you may want to make sure it’s comfortable to wear under your clothing for a few hours. If you are going to a swingers party, it may be a little while before you find another couple you are comfortable with, and nothing will make you feel more undesirable than feeling uncomfortable.


Many swingers parties are designed for people to be completely open. Costumes can be a great way to draw attention while still looking sexy. You can find costumes in all different styles and genres. If you want to dress up as a cop or a maid, any adult lingerie store will carry these. You can also find character costumes, such as Little Bo Peep, for the more adventurous options.

Fetish Gear

If you are in to fetish play, finding lingerie made of leather or PVC (vinyl) may be a good option. These will cost more, and you will need to find a perfect fit, but it can add another layer of fun and excitement to your swinging experiences. Leather is easy to find in corset styles, and is perfect for those in to sub/dom play.

Discreet Swinging- Keeping It Behind Closed Doors

by admin on Thursday, December 16th, 2010

Many couples who are interested in swinging don’t want the world to know. This is perfectly acceptable, especially given that it’s a lifestyle many don’t approve of or understand. Your career may be another reason you want to keep it under wraps. There are several ways you can discreetly swing.

Look Out Of Town

Look for clubs that are a short distance from you. This will ensure you won’t run in to any locals you may want to avoid. If the drive is going to be a long distance, make a weekend out of it. Get a nice hotel room and spend some time at the clubs.

Be Clear About Discretion

If you let other swingers know you need to keep your activity under wraps, most are going to be okay with that. Swinging is a lifestyle that is often misunderstood, and most other couples are going to understand this. If you stick to the clubs you will be pretty safe. Almost all clubs have rules disallowing cameras or other recording devices, so you don’t need to worry about your photos ending up on the net for the world to see.


Another great way to enjoy swinging while staying discreet is by taking a swingers vacation. You can find resorts, cruises, and other outings that are geared towards the swinging community. Since all of the others on the vacation are also swingers, your discretion is almost guaranteed. If you have to find a sitter for the kids, just tell them you’re going on a vacation without giving too many details. No one will know but you and the other swingers you are involved with.

How To Find Swingers Parties In Your Town

by admin on Monday, November 8th, 2010

Finding swingers parties isn’t as difficult as you may think. While the community is largely an underground phenomenon, it’s usually much larger than many people imagine. If you are looking for parties in your area, there are several places you can check out.

Local Swingers Clubs

Most local swingers clubs will have events throughout the year where swingers can meet up. Some of these clubs will host events on premises, meaning it’s open to sex. Others are held off premise, and these will be set up where no sex is allowed. The off premise events can still be fun, and a great way to meet other swingers who host private parties.

Swingers Websites

If you are more savvy online, you can find many websites devoted to swinging. Most of these sites will offer the ability to create profiles, and some even have chat rooms and forums where you can meet other people. These are great because you can browse discreetly from the privacy of your home. You can also spend time getting to know the other swingers before you decide to accept an invite to a private party.

Host A Party

Another great way to find other couples in your area that host parties is to host one yourself. If you know a few swingers, invite them and ask them if they know of other couples who may be interested. Hosting a party doesn’t take much effort or money, and can be a lot of fun. After the party be sure to have a way to stay in contact with the other couples who showed up. This way you can stay in the loop regarding future parties in your area.